Making Yourself Desirable
April 3, 2008
To long for something that brings enjoyment and satisfaction — it is but one definition of a word used in almost every blurb that indicate desire. It is something that people cannot completely deny themselves of because it measures how much they lust for life and love. Without desire, existence becomes mediocre and dull. Without desire, what is there for people to live for?Desiring for something or someone is easy; you pour all your attention and efforts on to that person or thing and you sit back while fate does the rest.
However, being desirable probably makes up more than half of your chances for success in business, life, and even love. You can dream, crave, and lust after every person in the whole world, but if they think you aren’t desirable and interesting enough, then you might as well dig your own grave and place a tombstone above it that reads, “The Unrequited.”Desirability is certainly more than just about the physical, although it plays a huge part in initial attraction. Being desirable is not about how many dates you’ve had in the last week, or how many people you’ve seen since junior high. The most important question you need to ask yourself is whether you’re desirable enough to be a part of other people’s lives. Are you even trying to become the best version of yourself so people would notice how much you’ve improved your way of life?You don’t have to see a shrink, go under the knife for nip-tuck sessions, or sign up for a short-course on success to become desirable. Focus on the things you can do to grow rather than wallow in pessimism and fear. The road to becoming desirable starts with an optimistic frame of mind; a positive outlook can certainly do wonders for your image and desirability.To get people interested in you, you have to be happy with yourself first. How can you expect other people to desire after you if you personally don’t like what you see in the mirror everyday? You need to love yourself before you can direct your feelings toward others. As soon as you recognize your worth and the respect you deserve, everything else will follow suit.
While you reinforce your identity and feel good about how you feel inside, it would be smart to simultaneously work with your outside appearance. Get a gym membership, sign up for the city marathon, see your doctor regularly, get at least eight hours of sleep, meditate, drink lots of water, and enjoy every single day with loved ones. A healthy lifestyle is not only desirable from a spectator’s point of view; it’s also highly beneficial for you in the long run.
Living a life that you personally admire will not only satisfy your desire to do good, but it can also attract just the right people. To be attractive, you have to live life to the fullest and settle for anything but mediocre. This way, you grow as a productive member of society, develop as a well-rounded individual, find happiness with someone who will love you for who you are, and feel an indescribable contentment within.
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